Remember the saying “Happy moms make happy families”? For me, this is truer than ever, since I became a mom. I’ve always been a big believer in self-care and now, being a first time mom, I quickly came to realize the importance of understanding how to incorporate self-care acts into my daily “busy mom” schedule.As women, we’ve been caregivers for centuries. Most of the time we’re so busy taking care of everyone else’s needs and expectations that we neglect our own mental, emotional, and physical health. As a result, too often, we become numb to our own needs. Intentionally practicing self-care during your motherhood journey can be difficult. It requires recognizing when you’re not treating yourself with kindness and being able to have an eye-to-eye with yourself and decide on the basics that nourishes YOU. The harsh reality is, we cannot take care of our family if we don’t take care of ourselves, FIRST.
“When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.”
So what does self-care look like, exactly? Self-care can be anything that helps you to meet your needs, reconnect with you and treating yourself kindly as you do others. It doesn’t look the same to everyone, it can mean many different things to different people. For me, I’ve learned that self-care does not have to be a grand production. By just adding simple acts of self-care into my day makes a difference in my well-being. Some days I wear my most favorite perfume and hear Zion giggle as I dab the final touch to the most special places 😉 Some days I have a cup of coffee in a quite space while journaling (something I got into recently) before everyone wakes up. Other days, I visit my hairdresser for a gorgeous hairdo and I know, I feel on top of the world when I wear a pair of killer heels (which I wear everyday :-)). These are the simple self-care acts daily that allows me to reconnect and helps to build a healthier, deeper and kinder relationship with myself, so that I can give the best of me to my family.
Below are fifteen small, yet significant acts of self-care you can try today.
1) Kick start your day with some positive, loving affirmations.
2) Do something that you’ve been putting off for a while.
3) Express Gratitude. Start a daily gratitude practice with your family by sharing at the dinner table one thing you were thankful for that day.
4) Choose who you spend your time with today. “Hang out with Radiators who emit enthusiasm and positivity, and not Drainers whose pessimism and negativity robs energy.”
5) Take a home spa. Light scented candles, play your favorite music and a take a hot, bubble bath.
6) Slowly rub some thick, luxurious body lotion on your hands and feet before bed.
7) Get a good night’s rest.
8) Slow down and be mindful. When you step out in the morning to drop the kids off at school, breath in the air deliberately and notice how it smells and makes you feel.
9) Create a vision board for yourself. Visualize who you want to be and the life you want to live and place it where you can see it every day.
10) Buy yourself flowers or a house plant. Seeing flowers in your space every day is surprisingly effective on your mood.
11) Start a journal. Write how you feel. Write a poem. Write down your thoughts. There’s no wrong or right when it comes to journaling. Just write.
12) Cuddle your little human or that special somebody 😉
13) Ask for help. Big or small. You don’t have to do everything yourself, reach out.
14) Eat or drink something that’s good for you.
15) Read a book. Read a few pages or a chapter before you go to bed, especially something that feeds your soul.
Do you have small acts of self-care daily that makes you feel happier and more fulfilling? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.